Do you tell your TIH that you LOVE them
As HOH it is very important to let your TIH now that your love them and how much you love them. Your TIH needs to know that they are loved and cherished, it will make them feel safe secure & happy in your relationship. The happier they are the more they will seek to please you by doing their very best at sticking to the rules. Your TIH will hate seeing the disappointment on your face after they have broken a rule.
Remember a hug & I love you goes a long way