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I believe that it is my husband’s duty to be the responsible head of the household

I believe that it is my husband’s duty to be the responsible head of the household, to establish an order and set the necessary standards and boundaries and to enforce them steadily and firmly so they ensure peace, safety, harmony and happiness in the home. As head of the household, he should rule with authority but also with consideration so that in general disagreements, conflicts and problems are avoided and those that cannot be avoided are solved. He should respect and appreciate my skills and effort as the homemaker but handle our finances without burdening me with matters like insurances, taxes, pension and mortgages. He should make the necessary and final decisions and enforce them as well as the order, standards and boundaries with such authority and consistent firmness that there is no doubt that he is in control and takes his duties as head of the household seriously.

It comes naturally that my husband as the responsible head has not only the right and authority to make decisions and demand to be respected and obeyed but also the duty to do so. With this also comes the right and duty to correct my behaviour, adjust my attitude and punish me for all kinds of naughtiness so my respect and obedience are ensured.

Some will say that with my husband as head of household with the right to make final decisions in all matters and the authority to punish me I am deprived of freedom but I experience it differently. From my point of view there is both security and an enormous freedom in having a husband who not only by name is the head of the household but actively rules and manages so that I am free from worrying about and needing to have an opinion about all kinds of matters in which I know that he is far more competent than I am. I am free to focus on being a good homemaker and companion and I even am free to be my real sometimes foolish and youthfully impulsive and flippant self. Of course it is a freedom within the boundaries set by my husband but these boundaries and the appertaining rules and standards provide a basic security and safety financially, socially and in other ways so it is only good to have them and I appreciate that I can rely on my husband to react with proper firmness to all breaches of boundaries. It is good and safe to know that that whenever I deviate from the good order and violate my limits I can be sure that my husband will bring me back to the order and safety within the boundaries and re-establish the order by disciplining me as I deserve.

It is good and gives me a feeling of order and stability to have clear guidelines and clear limits and also to know that although we can discuss most things my husband has the final word and the authority to end discussions. There are times when I am less than happy with his decisions, times when I do not get permission to do something I wanted and also times, when I am told to do something other than I at the time would like to do. It can be really annoying and I admit that at times it even causes me to sulk but despite the childish annoyance I know that when my husband makes his decision in a matter it is a responsible and sensible decision and he has always taken into consideration what is best for me and for us as a couple. Knowing this does not always keep me from pouting when I am disappointed but I am sure that the number of my disappointments would increase dramatically if I was allowed to make my own ill-advised decisions. No doubt the undesired consequences of my impulsiveness and my overdeveloped gene for cheekiness and mischief would also be far more serious if I could not trust my husband to keep an eye on me and intervene when I get out of hand. It is true that his intervention is never pleasant but most times the unpleasantness is limited to the embarrassment and annoyance of sternly being reminded of how I am supposed to behave and sometimes he emphasises his words with a few hard slaps but the times, when it is what I deserve, I get a sound and thorough bottom blistering spanking with the strap. When it first comes so far it no longer is just unpleasant but very painful and humbling. After being spanked remembering my place certainly is not difficult and with my sore bottom, I do not risk soon again to forget the rules and boundaries. It is terrible to feel the fierce sting of the strap when it systematically blisters my bare bottom and I desperate with pain twist and wriggle but the pain that seems so unbearable helps me to handle the guilt and afterwards, when I cry and humbly reflect on my punishment and the naughtiness that caused it, it actually is reassuring and emotionally satisfying to know that I have been punished severely as I deserved it and will be feeling the effects of it for some days.

Being subject to my husband’s authority and being held accountable by him helps me to have a good and happy life and to be a dutiful wife (most of the time) and whenever he spanks me I experience it as his responsible and reasonable reaction to my naughtiness and as an act of loving care for me.

Written by: Karin

Introduction From Karin

My name is Karin and I am Danish, 66 years old, married for more than 40 years.

I am in a very happy and harmonious marriage with a wonderful husband. The only big disappointment we have had is that we never got the children we would have wanted. We have always been happy together also in many ways privileged. Now we both are retired but still active in many ways and together we enjoy life very much.

Our marriage is traditional in the sense that my husband has always been the primary breadwinner and I have always been the homemaker and done the housework. But it is also traditional in the sense that my husband is the unquestioned Head of Household. This does not mean that he has a lot of privileges but that he carries the heavy burden of responsibilities that comes with the position as HoH. He rules with a firm and steady hand, responsibly and focussing on what is best not for him or for me but for us both and our marriage. Though he naturally demands respect and obedience he also is kind and gentle and not in any way a tyrant.

From the beginning of our marriage, he has spanked me when I misbehaved and he had to seriously disapprove of my behaviour. I do not like to get a spanking; it is painful and embarrassing and highly unpleasant and it certainly does not turn me on when he wallops my bare bottom thoroughly but I accept that it is the best way to keep me in line and to discipline me.

Spankings are sharp and swift punishments that effectively puts an end to conflicts. They re-establish the order and harmony and keep me aware of how I am supposed to behave.

I know myself well enough to admit that the childishly impulsive and also mischievous side of my personality makes it necessary that I am disciplined by my husband and that he is in charge and sets the necessary boundaries gives me a freedom from responsibilities and worries I only insufficiently meet and it provides me with a feeling of basic safety that I can rely on his caring headship and can trust that he keeps and eye on me and keeps me in line.

He used to almost always spank me with his belt but as one of the presents he had for me on my birthday in 2015 was a so-called reformatory strap. The strap is now the standard implement he uses when he needs to discipline me.

I hate and fear getting spanked. It hurts so terribly when I have misbehaved and my husband puts his belt or the strap to work on my bare bottom. He always spanks forcefully and methodically and though the severity of the spankings depends on the seriousness of my offence he never stops before my resistance is broken both physically and mentally. For days after my bottom is sore and reminds me constantly of being so naughty that a severe spanking was the only natural and suitable consequence.

It is dreadfully painful every time it happens but I realise that I do not get spanked unless I deserve it and I also know that the spankings both as punishment and attitude adjustment are a very positive influence on my behaviour. The knowledge of a severe spanking being the sure consequence of misbehaviour is in many cases effective deterrent and it seems that I remember better with my bottom than with head and often it is the bottom that warns me and makes me stop before I get out of line. Just opening the cupboard and see the strap hanging there makes me tremble and better remember to behave well.

I tend to be impulsive and easily get overexcited and then, when I get carried away by the high spirit of the moment, forget the time, forget chores and other things I should do and also sometimes forget my manners and be mouthy and disrespectful. It is a kind of childishness I will never grow out of so I need a firm guiding hand and those usually 12 to 15 butt blistering spankings in a year to keep me reasonably well in line.

With my partial immaturity, I need to have limits and structure and discipline in my life and I need my husband to provide it so I can feel safe.

I hate it and cry of fear whenever I again have crossed the point of no return and am told to go and fetch the strap but I am grateful that my husband never hesitates to spank me when I deserve it and that he when needed act as the stern authoritarian and prevents me from developing into a completely wayward and bitchy woman.

By: Karin