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Domestic Discipline and Single People

More and more, I am being contacted by single ladies who want to add rules and boundaries to their lives. These women tend to be over thirty years of age; some are divorcees with or without children, and others are widows, and some have never been in a relationship. After having lived a couple of years as a single person not having to be accountable to anyone for their actions, they come to realise how much they miss having rules and boundaries in their lives.

Having rules and boundaries in their lives makes them feel safe and secure; not being accountable to someone for your actions can be a lonely world. While they do not want a relationship in their lives at this current time, they do want the security having rules and boundaries gives them.

The common problems I get asked for help are health and diet, procrastination, attitude towards others, controlling their spending habits, appearance, and household chores.
Another issue I get asked for is preparing ladies for their next relationship when they are ready; often, they have looked back on failed relationships and realised that they could have done things better.

This year has seen a significant increase in home workers, and many do not have the self-discipline to manage their days, they miss the discipline of going to work and having a boss holding them accountable. For some home, working is a lonely place, and their families are full of distractions like social media, Netflix, pets etc.

Are you one of these ladies?

Having to be accountable at the end of your day for your actions fills a void in your life, it gives you a feeling of calm and security. Knowing that someone will hold you accountable if you don’t get your work done or don’t look after your health or control your impulse spending.
It is incredible how much is recklessly spent on online shopping in an evening while browsing the internet; many of the items bought are never used or worn.
Knowing there will be consequences for your actions is often all it takes.

If you would like to discuss how putting some rules and boundaries in your life, contact me today, and we can discuss what will work best for you. All enquires are in the strictest confidence.
The service I offer is not a sexual service.
The service I offer is a professional one, and I do charge a fee for my time, I will be happy to discuss your issues and then give you a no-obligation quote.

Life as a disciplined wife is not oppressive. Instead, it is liberating

Life as a disciplined wife is not oppressive. Instead, it is liberating.

Living life as a submissive/disciplined wife it, not an oppressive life, instead it is liberating because you are unloading lots of everyday responsibility to your HoH. They carry the burden of making the decisions, making sure the bills are paid and most importantly taking care of your mental and physical wellbeing.

You are free to get on with the important things, such as looking after your home, taking care of your HoH and any hobbies you have.
You do not have to spend your days worrying about paying bills, making day to day decisions that eat away at your day.

A Spanking Is Not always The Answer

A Spanking is not always the answer

Sometimes a hug and “I Love You” will do more good.
As HoH, you need to learn when to discipline and when to hug, not every transgression should end in punishment, you have to take the time to understand why your partner did what they did.

Do not act in haste think about what has happened and why it happened and then don’t spank them just because you can.
As HoH, you have to treasure your partner’s submission and trust if you spank without a justified reason and just for your gratification, then you will soon lose their trust and respect.

Never give your HoH that look

Never give your HoH that look.
How many times have you given your HoH that looks that says “Screw You” I will do what I want or the one that says “Your Wrong I’m Right”.
You know as soon as he sees it you will be in big trouble for being so disrespectful, a look can say more than words at times, and any good HoH can not allow this to go unpunished or they will lose the respect of the partner.
Next time before you shot that look try to remember it will not end favourably for you.

Always have your HoH’s meals ready on time.

Always have your HoH’s meals ready on time.
When they have been working, they expect to come home to a tasty home-cooked meal.
It is the wife place to plan her days to have the groceries in and the time to make a home-cooked meal for her husband and family.

Do not serve your husband microwave meals to save you time, when you make the meals at yourself, you can control what goes in them, so they are nutritious and tasty. Your husband does not want to eat processed rubbish.

Failure to have meals ready in time should result in a punishment unless you have a valid reason for being late.

Don’t Be Disrespectful To Your HoH When With Friends

Don’t Be Disrespectful To Your HoH In Front of Others.

One rule many wives break is to be disrespectful to their husbands when with family and friends.
When talking to your husband or about him to friends, always do it respectfully.
Do not criticise or belittle your husband to others, if you do not have something positive or kind to say, keep quiet.

Wives who are not living a domestic discipline lifestyle are often in the habit of criticising or talking negatively about their husbands. Respect is seldom shown, and they often make jokes at their husbands’ expense. Do not be one of these wives.

Instead, talk positively about your husband and point out all his good points, show that you are proud of all that he has achieved.
When you want to talk, wait until he has finished speaking, do not finish his sentences for him.

Wives who do not respect their husbands should expect a strict lesson in respect when they get home.

If you struggle to plan your day ask for help

If you are struggling to finish all your chores around the house each day, make a checklist of jobs you have to do.
Break these down into daily, weekly, weekend tasks etc.

Each day you will have a list of jobs that need completing, and you can plan your day around this.

If you struggle to do this on your own, ask your HoH to help you together, you can work through what needs doing and when it would be best to do it.

Be realistic with your expectations do not set goals that are impossible to meet.
Your HoH can also keep a check on the list, and if you are lazy, he can hold you accountable for not completing your jobs.

Dealing with Money In A Domestic Discipline Marriage

The HoH should control the household budget; all money coming into the home should be responsible.

It does not matter who earns the most money all income should pass to the HoH they are responsible for seeing that the money is there to pay the bills, mortgage, car, etc.

The HoH will decide on the budget, and their word will be the final word.
The HoH must see that you adhere to the budget at all times any overspending could place the family in debt and have severe financial consequences.
As HoH it is expected that you will be fair with the money, it is a poor HoH who does not share the spare cash.

If The TiH does not stick to the budget and does not have an acceptable reason for overspending, they should be held accountable.

If the TiH has to go over the budget, they should first ask permission to spend, or if it is not possible to ask first, they will have to have a valid reason for spending or risk punishment.

It is a good practice for the TiH to keep records of how they have spent the money they have for housekeeping etc., so if the HoH wants to check, they can provide proof of spending.

Any personal spending money should not be accounted for, as this is theirs to spend freely.

Set The Rules For Clothing

Set The Rules For Clothing In A Domestic Discipline Lifestyle

It is essential to set the rules for clothing and what your TiH can wear or more importantly, not wear.
Each HoH will have different opinions on what clothing their TiH should wear, and these rules should be agreed early on in your domestic discipline lifestyle.

If your TiH has to work, it has to be accepted that she will have to wear clothing suitable for their work or a company uniform. But once the TiH returns home, they should change into the dress you have agreed should be worn.

I personally like my wife to dress conservatively will I am at work, and she has a free choice on her outfits, but during her time with me, she is expected to wear the type of clothing I enjoy seeing her in. Regarding makeup, we have also included this in our dress code, and again makeup is allowed buttoned down while she is at work and they are glammed up when she is with me.

Having set rules will stop your TiH from offending you by wearing an unsuitable outfit and also it will make her feel good when s dressed in the clothing she knows you enjoy them wearing.

As HoH You Must Demand Respect At All Times

Every Domestic Discipline must have “Respect” as one of the rules, as HoH you can not lead with your partners being disrespectful.

Starting or veterans at the DD lifestyle “Respect” is a vital part of your relationship, your TIH must treat you with respect.

As HoH you also have to earn their Respect, you can’t expect your TiH to respect you if you lie, cheat, mistreat them.

As TiH you must not answer back, roll your eyes or give attitude to your HoH, never talk over them or ignore them when they are speaking.

It is essential that you talk about respect and set out what punishments are for lack of respect.
These punishments must be consistent, allowing the smallest of infractions will show weakness and lead to further disrespect.

Always remember that RESPECT is a two-way street.

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