Question:
I am a 27 year old woman and worry that I am a domestic discipline weakling. I asked my husband for a domestic discipline relationship. He agreed. I was hoping he would “get into it” and not just be doing it just for me.
The 1st time I was to be spanked (for giving my husband that “look” and sighing), I was told when we got home to “Go to the bedroom and strip”. I was to lay on the bed and wait.
I swallowed hard. I didn’t ask any questions. His orders were quite clear, and the authority his voice made me lightheaded.
As I entered the bedroom, I had never felt this way before. Without being told specifics, I just knew this was going to a hard punishment.
I undressed down to my panties and thought I would ask if I could keep them on. Billy said to strip. So, I took them off. I paced. I sat down on the bed. I got up. Then I laid on my stomach with my head at the pillow end and waited.
I laid there with my butt up in the air and watched the clock. My heart was beating faster and I felt the butterflies in my stomach. My behavior was terrible but I was just worried about how red my butt was going to be. Was it going to be his hand, the belt? Would he used the padded cuffs to tie me down? Would I be crying and sobbing? I was nervous. Then, when I saw my husband came in and he was eyeing my body up and down for this purpose… Oh, God! I could not believe what was about to happen.
My question: Do all of these feelings mean I am a domestic discipline weakling? I was so proud of my husband and would not want things any other way
but thought I could have done better. Another question to follow about the spanking if I may?
Answer:
No, this does not mean you are a domestic discipline weakling.
Everyone reacts differently, especially when they’re about to experience their first spanking in a DD relationship. That moment marked a major shift in the dynamic between you and your husband, and it’s only natural for your mind to race with a thousand different thoughts and emotions.
What you felt—nerves, anticipation, curiosity, vulnerability, and even pride in your husband’s leadership—is completely normal. It shows that you’re fully present and taking this seriously. That doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it shows your strength and your willingness to submit, even when your emotions are running high.
My main advice is this: keep the communication open. Regular check-ins are essential. Talk often—before, during, and after discipline. Let your husband know how you’re feeling and what’s going on inside. And encourage him to do the same. That ongoing communication will strengthen the bond between you and help you both grow deeper into your roles.