Question:

My parents have always practiced DD. As we got older we were aware when spankings occurred to my mother. I am now married and we also practice DD. About a month or so ago while at my parents home I did something that I had been previously warned would not be tolerated (I rolled my eyes at my HOH). I regretted it immediately and knew I would most likely get spanked but I was not expecting to receive my spanking in my parents house. I was taken to another room but I know my parents and siblings could hear. Should my HOH have waited til we were back home? I felt doubly punished by it being so publicly known.

Answer:

Yes, I believe your husband acted appropriately by addressing the situation immediately, even though it was at your parents’ house. Given that you were raised in an environment where domestic discipline was practiced and have chosen to maintain this lifestyle in your marriage, it seems consistent that your husband would uphold those agreed-upon norms, regardless of the location. Moreover, the incident that prompted the discipline—rolling your eyes—occurred at your parent’s house, which makes it contextually relevant for the discipline to happen there as well.

It’s important to note that your husband chose to handle the situation in a more private setting by taking you to another room, which respects your privacy to some extent while still addressing the behavior promptly. If your parents did not practice domestic discipline, the context might differ significantly, and it might have been more appropriate to wait until you returned home.

To avoid a similar situation in the future, consider aligning your actions with the expectations set forth in your relationship, especially when in environments where such actions might lead to immediate consequences.

This advice assumes that all aspects of your domestic discipline relationship are consensual and agreed upon by both parties. If ever it feels non-consensual, it’s crucial to reevaluate the dynamics with professional help.