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Discipline Spankings and Family Life

Spankings should never be carried out in front of children or given to children.
Domestic Discipline is an agreement between consenting adults only.

Discipline spankings when you have family around you can be very difficult but possible with a little care and thought.

It is essential to discipline as soon as possible when one of your rules get broken, a good HoH has to show consistency, or they will look weak,

and a wife will naturally take advantage of a weak HoH.

Remember one of the reasons for living a DD lifestyle is to stop shouting and arguments in the home.
Any problems should get dealt with quickly and with as little disruption to family life as possible.

As our children got older, it got harder to practice domestic discipline lifestyle; modern life means they spend more time in the family home, tucked away in bedrooms playing computer type games etc.
We now have adopted this method of dealing with Discipline while the children are in the house; my wife will bend over the kitchen table where I can quickly gain access to her bottom for spanking,

I use regular kitchen implements like wooden spoons and spatulas, these do not have to be hidden and can be kept readily at hand for quick spankings, they are useful, reasonably quiet and low cost to replace when they get broken.
After giving a spanking, I send my wife to the bathroom or bedroom until she has stopped crying and regained her composure without the children knowing what is happening.

Your First Punishment Spanking

From the moment you start living your domestic Lifestyle, you will begin to see and feel the benefits of living a more structured lifestyle with rules; both partners will know what behaviour is expected. They will work together to achieve their relationship goals. But sooner or later, the time will come when one or more of the rules get broken, and a punishment spanking has to get administered. The first Spanking is something you should try and mentally prepare yourself for because, from this point forward, your marriage will be different forever that first Spanking will change the way both partners look view each other with one big bag of mixed emotions.
Your relationship will never be the same again after your first discipline spanking.

HoH / Husband
As HoH you will feel guilty you have just hurt the one you love, seeing your wife cry the first time after a spanking.
A spanking will be disturbing, never before will you have intentionally made her cry by raising a hand to her, all your life you will have been told you “YOU DO NOT HIT WOMEN” now here you are spanking her for her good.
Do not be tempted to say you are sorry, as HoH you have decided to punish her after breaking one of the rules you both agreed on. If you had not punished your wife you would have appeared to be weak, and that is not what your wife is looking for, she is looking for a strong HoH to guide her and help make her a better person.
You will also have to resist the urge to throw your arms around her, saying you are sorry and will never do this again.

Instead, tell her that you love her that you did what you had to do because you love her.

You will also feel empowered after your First Spanking. There is nothing like the feeling of knowing your wife love, trusts, respects you enough to allow you to pull up her skirt and pull down her panties, then spank her. Because she has broken one of your agreed rules, lots of husbands also find this very arousing, do not make the mistake of turning the Spanking into a lovemaking session. Making love would only confuse both of you; this is a Punishment and not foreplay.

Do not look for any excuse to repeat the Spanking as soon as you can, a good HoH is always fair and only punishes when it is necessary and not for the sake of his pleasure.

Submissive / Wife
What a significant change in your life this is going to be. The man who promised to look after you has just spanked you.
You have spent your childhood dreaming of Prince Charming carrying you off to his castle to live happily ever after and now you find yourself crying with a sore bottom.

At first, you will be shocked, how has this happened to you, why have you let this happen to you, all your childhood you have been taught that women are equal to men and men should never hit women, why have you allowed this to happen to you, you are not a weak, feeble person but a strong modern woman.

Remember you are giving him the consent to spank you if you had not broken the rules that you agreed with him he would not have had to discipline you. It is for your good. You want to to to be the best wife you can be.

You will also feel so emotional & tearful after, bursting into tears without really knowing why and that feeling of relief when suddenly a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Life seems calmer; you are more relaxed and focused.
You will also feel guilty for disappointing your HoH, you have let him down, forcing him to punish you, you can see the concern and mixed emotions in his face, had you behaved as you should he would not be feeling this way.
A spanking also arouses many women; it is not just the heat and pain in your bottom, you feel. You will also feel a ripple through your body from the impact and the mental effect as well.

Do not be ashamed by this; you are not some freak that loves to get beaten for sexual pleasure; what you have just experienced is an extraordinary thing between husband and wife.

Hold on to those feelings for later when you and your husband make love to you; it will be one of the most intense lovemaking sessions you have ever had.

These are just some of the emotions you may feel after your first Spanking.

Starting Your Domestic Discipline Journey

This is one of the scariest and exciting journeys you will ever make.
The best advice I can give you at this stage is to take your time, do not rush into things, talk, think, talk with your partner.

I am asked many times for help and advice about starting a Domestic Discipline Relationship; I have been giving this a lot of thought on how I can best help people who do not want to join groups/forums etc.
Many people are very private when it comes to DD, so for these people who would benefit from a ONE-ONE help, I am now introducing my weekly lessons.

This is a subscription service, and I am going to charge a small nominal fee of £4.99p per week for this lesson, it will help guide you through starting your Domestic Discipline Relationship and is totally discreet & confidential.

If you have any questions before subscribing, please email me.

The Cost Of Domestic Discipline

When considering starting a Domestic Discipline relationship do not let the cost of items to punish, restrain put you off.

Every home already has a lot of items that can be used in punishments, of course, it is nice to have an extensive collection of spanking tools to choose from, but you can effectively discipline with a single well cozen item.

Spanking Tools:
1: Hand (mother nature gave us 2 of these, one for holding and one for spanking)
2: Hairbrush
3: Wooden spoon
4: Fly swat
5: Pallet Knife (use caution with any knife)
6: Belt
7: Pet lead or collar
8: Slipper
9: Coat/clothes hanger
10: Branch of a tree
11: Rolled up magazine
12: Garden cane
13: Piece of hosepipe
14: Fish slice

the list goes on and is endless when trying a new implement I would suggest you go careful at first to make sure the item will not cause any harm to your wife or sub other than the desired pain of the spanking. Some things will not last very long if so do be careful if you are expecting your wife to cook evening dinner and you use the wooden spoon and break it, how will she cook your meal.

For restraining I suggest you use :
1: Ties
2: Scarfs
3: Cloths line
4: stockings
5: Dog collar
6: Belts

I do not like using the cable ties as they do tend to cut the skin easily.
When restraining always make sure your wife/sub can breathe, you don’t want her to die.

These are just a few suggestions, and I am sure you all have your favourites which I would love to hear about.